Self Honesty
There is so much that I don't know but whatever I've lived through, I know very well.
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This I know: there's no pleasing an alcoholic who is actively fostering the disease.
Here's something else I know: bending the facts so as to present yourself in a more favorable light, maybe even to win recognition as being a poor victim, is one of the best ways to deepen and prolong your own misery. Been there, done that. This holds true for the alcoholic too. Self-protecting "spin doctors" are the first to declare, "Therapy doesn't work!"
No one can begin to feel better about oneself until brutal self-honesty prevails. We are so afraid that by revealing to a Twelve Step sponsor and/or therapist something about ourselves we're ashamed of we will lose their approval.
Nothing could be further from the truth. They will recognize the risk we've taken, how vulnerable we've made ourself, and they will know that we are serious about wanting to feel better, to get our lives in order.
Simple? Yes. Difficult? Yes. Worth it? Oh my yes!
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