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Another View of Intervention

A new book by Jeff and Debra Jay suggests that families may not be as powerless as they have been lead to believe in intervening to help an alcoholic or addicted family member.

Graphic courtesy of Jeff Jay
Love First - A New Approach to Intervention for Alcoholism & Drug Addiction attacks the generally accepted theory that an alcoholic must "hit bottom" before treatment can be effective and that any intervention must be confrontational.

"If alcoholics and addicts won't accept help until they're ready, what gets them ready?" the authors explain. "In this book, we have written about intervention in the real way that families experience it. We have organized the information in a step-by-step fashion, we guide you through every nuance of the process, and we answer the many questions that families ask."

The publication of the book is naturally endorsed by many members of the professional addiction treatment community, in which the Jays are also employed.

"I am truly excited about the new book. Jeff and Debra Jay have described so eloquently addictive disease within the family and more importantly, what a family can do about it," said John T. Schwarzlose, President, Betty Ford Center. "Most alcoholics and addicts are not able to access the treatment they need. Families and loved ones who read this new look at intervention will find the keys to begin the process of recovery."

Personal Experience

"My own recovery came about as a result of a family intervention," Jeff Jay told Alcoholism Guide BuddyT. "At the time, I was sleeping under bushes in the city parks. I had a bleeding ulcer, a bleeding colon, and neuropathy of the legs."

"But I still didn't think that I had an alcohol or drug problem. I just thought that I had a little cash flow problem," he said. "At the time, I was 26 years old, and preparing to commit suicide the next day."

"By the grace of God, my family found me, intervened, and got me into treatment. I followed the directions I got in treatment, and have been staying sober one day at a time since October 4, 1981," he continued.

"In my opinion, everybody who gets sober has some kind of intervention. It may be a divine intervention, a medical intervention, a legal intervention, or a family intervention," Jeff said. "But no real alcoholic just wakes up and says, 'Gee, I think I'll go check into the Betty Ford Center today.' Something or someone has to break that denial.

"If someone you care about is suffering from alcohol or other drug problems, we can explain how to use love and honesty to give your addicted loved one the chance to reach out for help," Jeff said.

Love First: Intervention
Intervention teaches families and friends a language alcoholics understand. It organizes love and honesty in a way that breaks through denial.

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