Understanding Step 3 of AA

How Surrender Is Central to Recovery

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AA step 3 focuses on letting go of control and trusting a higher power. The purpose is to be able to turn to a spiritual source of strength as a way to achieve recovery from alcohol use. It is one of the steps in the 12 steps of recovery used in Alcoholics Anonymous and related programs.

At a Glance

During step 3, you'll surrender to a higher power, which may be God or something else that you find spiritually meaningful. The purpose of this step is to help you understand that you cannot recover from your addiction without help. Turning to a higher power allows you to then work toward recovery with humility and trust that you will be guided through this process.

Understanding AA Step 3

According to Alcoholics Anonymous:

Step 3

"Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him."

Members of AA and other twelve-step programs strive to find a new path by embracing spirituality and admitting they alone cannot control their addiction. Although the journey starts when a person walks into their first meeting, the real recovery begins when the decision is made to "let go" and allow a greater power to take over.

It may be a difficult thing to do, especially in a culture where people are taught that they are the masters of their own destiny, but many find comfort and relief when they sincerely take step three. By working within a fellowship, rather than on one's own, step three allows a person to embrace faith as a means to achieve the impossible.

According to AA, having faith in a spiritual power is essential for any person to take this leap. They suggest that actively believing and embracing a higher power is an act of surrender and courage.

How AA Step 3 Fits Into the 12 Steps

Upon achieving step one (the admission of powerlessness) and step two (agreeing that there is, in fact, a higher power), Step Three goes beyond words to actions. It opens the door to the rest of the steps and allows a person to begin the process of self-reflection (step four) and admitting the nature of one's wrongdoings (step five).

The 12 Steps of AA

According to Alcoholics Anonymous, the 12 Steps are:

  1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character
  7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

The twelve steps of the Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) recovery program are the spiritual foundation for personal recovery, used not only by people with an alcohol use disorder (AUD) but by their friends and family in Al-Anon and Alateen programs.

People who have embraced the twelve steps have found that it provides them the means to stop drinking and offers them a structural framework to live a productive and fulfilling life.

Why AA Step 3 Is Important

According to a Cochrane review that assessed the effectiveness of AA and other 12-step interventions for AUD, found that engaging in these community-based recovery resources was as effective as proven treatments like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) in helping people to sustain recovery.

Of the twelve steps, step three can be best referred to as the process of surrender. It asserts that a lifetime of recovery can only be achieved by making the decision to turn over your will to a higher being. Step three is defined as "(to make) a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him."

Benefits of AA Step 3

Some of the potential benefits that come from step 3 include:

  • Finding relief from the burden of carrying your problems all on your own
  • Understanding how circumstances can affect your situation
  • Embracing spiritual growth
  • Understanding the differences between what you can control and what you cannot
  • Taking a more humble approach to life
  • Becoming more open to making changes in your behavior
  • Developing a greater sense of personal accountability for the things you do have control over

Foundation of the Twelve Steps

While AA describes its program as non-religious, it is strongly based on the belief of a higher power, which they colloquially refer to as God. This doesn't necessarily mean a Christian God but rather any higher spiritual being in whom a person can place his or her faith.

While AA has spawned dozens of other drug and alcohol recovery programs, the very concept of God, used commonly in the text, can make some people uncomfortable. While AA welcomes persons of all religious beliefs and denominations, the vocabulary and references are firmly based on Judeo-Christian traditions. The spiritual being is masculine ("Him"), and the term "prayer" suggests an intimate connection to the higher power.

For those who are atheistic or uncomfortable with these foundational beliefs, there are other recovery programs that may be just as effective and far more suitable.

What This Means For You

As you work through each of the 12 steps, remember that it is a process that takes time. AA Step 3 is just part of this process. By surrendering to a higher power, you can gain a clearer picture of what you'll need to do to stay sober while feeling supported through this process.

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By Buddy T
Buddy T is a writer and founding member of the Online Al-Anon Outreach Committee with decades of experience writing about alcoholism. Because he is a member of a support group that stresses the importance of anonymity at the public level, he does not use his photograph or his real name on this website.