Al-Anon Meeting Topic: Keeping the Focus on Ourselves

Rather Than Focusing on the Alcoholic

One of the 12 Traditions of Al-Anon states that we have no opinion on outside issues. Well, if I apply that principal to "all my affairs" as is suggested, then someone else's drinking or behavoir, becomes an "outside issue."

When I share at a meeting, I do not discuss the behavior of anyone outside the room. I only talk about my circumstances and how I am trying to deal with them. And if I take it a step further, then the alcoholic's behavior, actions, reactions, and even comments become an "outside issue" too.

Improving the Family Situation

If I keep the focus on me and my spiritual journey of recovery I don't have time to focus on anyone else's behavior. Besides, like the fellow says, "When I get through minding my own business It's usually time to go to sleep!"

If I just concentrate on doing my part right, that has to improve the family situation. Because I am no longer a part of the problem, I am part of the solution.

-- BuddyT

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