After all, I was the one who was always totally logical and reasonable. She was the crazy alcoholic!
Trying to Force SolutionsAs I kept coming back and started to learn how everybody has a higher power who has a plan for their life and that plan is based on God's perfect timing. I realize that by trying to "force solutions" to the problems caused by alcoholism in my family, I was basically getting in the way of God's plan and God's timing.
Because my timing and my thinking did not line up with God's perfect plan and perfect timing, it was by definition "distorted." Because I reasoned that things should happen MY way when I wanted them to -- without giving any consideration to what God's plan and timing might happen to be -- I was being unreasonable without even knowing that I was doing so.
Turn It Over to a Higher PowerSo now, thank goodness, when I see a situation that I think needs to be "fixed" I pray about it, and turn in over to God. And if it doesn't change immediately, or doesn't turn out the way I planned it, I know now I have to accept that it will or will not happen according to God's plan and in his timing for their lives.
God didn't go on vacation and leave me in charge. Everyone has a higher power and it's not me!
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