I replied that either it was my family, or else I did not know. "You cannot blame others, and therefore you do not know" he responded. "Go back and work step 4 again."
I did, and then heard something in a meeting that made complete sense. Another attendee said during comments, "Many say that it was anger, jealousy, envy, whatever. But the root cause of all of those things is fear."
Governing Factor of My Life
Fear. I had to consider that one. And the more I examined it, the more I found that fear was not only the exact nature of my wrongs, but it was the sole governing factor of my life from birth to the present.
The exact nature of my wrongs was fear. So during my next attempt at Step 5, I gave a couple of representative examples of the wrongs I had done, but very clearly told my listener that fear was the exact nature of those wrongs, and all the others.
"That's right" he said. "Congratulations on taking a successful fifth step."
Sox
