- My daughter is 39 yo & has 4 children a 16 yo boy 14 yo boy 8 yo lod boy 4yo log girl. She dives drunk 4/5 times a week ,picks up the youngest from school. But to avoid cops she arrives 10 mins after the bell & parks over near footy field so the kids can walk thru to meet her. I'm so worried she is going to kill one of my grand kids or one of yours. Apparently to report it to police you have to know the exact time & place. I think it would be worth the time to maybe do a couple of weeks surveillance . After look at what is at risk.
- —Guest Nana
- Is it right to take from a person with alcohol issues the most critical resource a person has to keeping a job? Do you want your tax dollars to pay for a person with alcohol problems who cannot keep their job because they cannot drive to work (eg, with welfare and other government aid programs)? Do you want to feel the affects of the crime committed by the person(s) who has no job and no means of getting money to live because they cannot drive where they need to go to obtain these vital resources? How much more dangerous is a person who begins driving after 15 years of inexperience than they were driving with a BAC of 0.08? Why is there so much disparity in DUI pentalties from individual to individual, across and within state lines ranging from simple fines and classes to absolute license revocation for 15 years for the same crime?
- —Guest Curious
He never took it seriously
- I found out my ex-husband was arrested for DUI. He was ordered to AA by the court..and apparently would go to meetings and then come home to his now other ex and grab a beer as soon as he was in the door. Some people don't take it seriously. We are helpless in preventing harm as bystanders of people who do not think they have a problem. The states need to colaborate better, as this is not his first offence, but was treated as such by his state.
- —Guest exwifeofanalcoholicthathidesitwell
Prevention from driving
- I can tell you taking the keys is not always enough. Throwing them in a bush might cause them to be found or there is often a second set. Not only did I take the keys and nearly had my fingers broken for it but I also took the rib beating that came with it until he got tired. I was brought up in a physically abusive family and knew I would survive it but knowing if anything happened to him or his kids he wouldn't have.
Do whatever you need
- Once my dad was trying to grab the keys out of my hand, and i just threw them out in the bushes and he could'nt find them so he stayed home.
- —Guest kevin e
Know both worlds
- Started drinking at 13yrs. Old. My dad & grandfather drank heavy. It was a way to forget pain over a horrible accident I was in at 12yrs. Old. A bus accident that killed 6 kids & bus driver. I drank for 17yrs. & never thought I could stop. I was suicidal whole time. Finally at 31yrs. My older sister started going to aa. She invited me, didnt want to go. Hopeless misery. Took me 2 years to get 30 days sober. That was long ago. 37yrs. Sober! What helped me was aa & al anon/ for families of alcholics
- —Guest theresa
- It's hard to see your best friend too drunk to stand. When you're a girl and he overpowers you in the parking lot outside the club trying to wrestle the keys away from you. When you're sober and he's very, VERY far from it. I love that dude like a brother, and I'm watching him lose control of himself and his life. Watching him put his life in danger on a near-nightly basis is beyond painful for me.
- —Guest L
My boyfriend needs help
- My boyfriend is 26 yrs old and is a chef without a degree. He only needs a few more classes to get it. He works 50 hours a week, comes home, drinks until he cant stand up straight, and often drives to go get food. I think he needs to hit rock bottom before he can realize what he's doing is hurting him. I have thought about calling the police in our town when he leaves to get food. I need some advice. Thanks.
- —Guest pippiebeau
- First off, I am looking this up because I wanted to know what other people think of drunk driving. I'm glad to know that some people understand that even if your best friend hates you, it is still better to help then it is to let them driving with any alcohol in their system because FACTS AND STATISTICS HAVE PROVED that one drink can impair driving ability. Some of you think that according to statistics most are pulled over, STUPID. Have you seen recent stats!? The number of deaths has gone up and its because of people like some of you who thinks its okay to drive with alcohol in your system! Second of all, My mother lost her leg because of a drunk driving incident. She has to live the rest of her life like that because of foolish ignorant people who care only about having a good time! Am I biased? NO! I have seen the other side. i watched my friends and other kids my age and older lose people and get injured themselves! Can you tell me that's RIGHT?! OKay done ranting. :)
- —Guest Smart Person
Drinking is bad
- You can kill somebody's family and do serious damage.
- —Guest relly
Riches to Rags
- I've known my friend since middle school and that was at almost 20 years ago. He was severely injured in a car accident by a drunk driver back in college, recovered miraculously, and then received a huge settlement. Now he's the drunk behind the wheel. Already being a party guy on campus, it got worse post-college. He quit his good paying job and went on party spree. The first DUI meant nothing to him as did the second. Now he is on his third DUI, which could have been fatal for him, dirt poor from partying and lawyer fees, no job, chain smokes, looks and smells like crap, and still insists that he doesn't have a drinking problem. A little bit of jail time and he's back at it. Since his family doesn't think much of it, I try to do my best to give him words of advice, but just goes in one ear and out the other. At times I feel that I should stop trying to help him since he never listens, but I also don't want to turn my back on him since we've been friends for the longest time. Now what?
- —Guest D
- I have been in detox facilities 3 times in my life I always go back thinking I can just have a few, it never stays that way. Just recently I fell off the wagon hard, 4 bottles of wine a day for over two weeks. It is day 4 of no alcohol. I feel awful the sweats are the worst I ever have experienced, it happens all day, & I have to change my clothes 2 to 3 times a night & not sleeping good. I am trying to eat well & I can't get enough water in me, so thirsty all the time. I am to ashamed now to see Doctor so I am trying to do this by myself. I know if I drink again I will loose my family. I am so scared & feel I just want to get drunk & die. I won't commit suicide cause God won't except me. This is my first post. I thought I would post, because I read so many inspirational posts on this site. I am trying so hard. Not easy though. wish me luck.
Whatever it Takes
- If you want to see them again, you do whatever it takes.
victim of drunk driver
- 1st, responding on this article. My husband was killed by a drunk driver, he did not drink, nor I. He is gone, I am left with a scar through my lip to my chin, plus more, I call all bars in my area on new years eve, my little shit-zu and I will drive them home, if needed! thank you for reading this!
- —Guest sandy dunson/morse
- My daughter's best friend's mom drinks all day, then drives the kids around to their activities. Her daughter is afraid to drive with her. My daughter is afraid to drive with her. My daughter is now forbidden to drive with her. When I told the mom, she said I was being "hurtful" and causing drama. Alcoholics have a funny way of thinking.
- —Guest Guest Mary