At the end of my rope
- What have i tried to get someone to stop drinking? I've tried everything short of leaving and/or making him leave. The only way i think i can get him to leave is by a court order. He is a stay at home dad/has his own summer time part time business. This would work very well if he wouldn't start drinking every day before 3pm, sometimes its 11am i'm sure. We've discussed the amount he drinks, and he admits to 10-15 beers a day. He goes through a 30pack in at least 2 days i'm sure. His mental capacities are going, he sits around talking to himself or blows up at me and my kids. I've had enough, he needs to go or hit bottom. Yesterday he found out that his part time business is in jeopardy because of new state regulations. He sat in the basement blaming me and saying things to my kids that were scary. He says i'm trying to hide it from him. He's lost his mind, and i can't live with a crazy person. What do i do?
- My husband almost died and was hospitalized from liver cirrhosis he is young and a great person when sober. He will stay sober for a while then go on a binge. I am worried he will die but I have tried everything....sympathy, threats, etc. He has tried AA and counseling but when he's drinking he doesn't listen. I love him but his choices are ruing his life and mine. I have been so loyal and tryin to help nothing works! Time to let him fall and hope he can pick himself up. What can I do? Nothing
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Don't know what to do
- My mom has been an alcoholic for majority of my life. Things got worse when my auntie (her sister) died and then my stepdad left. She began drinking heavily, not paying much attention to me, getting into arguments with other family members. Over time she's become more verbally abusive when drunk. She's 52 years old and still thinks that drinking is okay to do. I've asked her why she has to drink so much and she calls me a dead beat and that I must be so much better than her and called her self a low-life. My children are becoming older and I don't want them exposed to her when she's drunk. I want to tell her that she's not to see them or call when she's drunk anymore, but I'm afraid that will cause her drinking to get worse. She's been lying to me about things (some major like having another sister) for majority of my life. I don't know what to do.
- —Guest Michelle
- My boyfriend is a wonderful man with a caring heart. Ever since he started his job as a bartender he has changed so drastically to the point where he is drinking himself to sleep every night. He has a million reasons to "why" he needs to drink and won't accept any healthier alternatives that I offer. When he begins his binge every night I never know what I get. Sometimes he is so mean and cruel with his words... It's like he finds your inner most insecurities and attacks those at full force for no good reason. He's broken our things and peed in strange places (i.e. in the bed/closet/corner of the room) in his drunken stupor. I am so fed up yet I feel so weak and powerless. He breaks up with me if I mention that he has a problem and turns it around on me with his made up logic instead of admitting to the problem. I have no clue where to start as he is always feeling attacked no matter how I voice my concerns or how carefully I step when starting the conversation. Help!
- —Guest Anon
- For more than ten years now,my husband is still drinking. At first i thought he would change. After reading all these posts i have made up my mind to leave. Kids are suffering too much because i wasn't strong enough to leave and am scared of hurting my kids more because i am hurting too.
- —Guest Javiixzon
- My son has been a drunk for 7 years and is married 7 separated for 1 1/2 years, she wants nothing to do with him except make him pay for his son which I don't blame her! but he can't because he drinks to much, lost his job. Came out of rehab a month ago doing good without a job and looking online for something maybe school ing to get a better job. He went to visit a friend yesterday and drove home drunk! very disappointed, tired and want him out, don't know how to get him out with no place for him to go! no money for fancy rehabs and I can't deal with it anymore. I have my own problems almost loosing my husband, my dad died and my sister in law had cancer and died all in the same year. I can't help him! Sometimes I just want to check out of this place and see my dad.
- Right, I have recently turned 10 years old and I realised that my mum is drinking more and more everyday. i dont know what to do. It is hard for me to concentrate on my work while she is having a blast out with 4 other friends. On Wendesday 20th I am going to kingswood for 2 days. And When I come back I bet you my mum will be drunk agian. My dad is trying to help my mum, but my mum is getting worse. I tryed to help and talkt o her but she says shes fine and she will change from now on. Then the next week after school is see my mum drunk agian. I also have a little sis thats 4 years old and my mum really is nice to my sister when she is drunk, but when shes drunk shes horrible to me. Litrelly, please help me!
- —Guest Kamilla
Let Him drink
- 26 yr old son drinks alone in home hides alcohol. binge drinks. works part time ,getting his bachelors in Dec. Alcoholism on both sides of family .Should we allow him to drink in home.. devastated. Dealt with first son with similar problem, however different personality.
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Dad doesn't want help
- My dad is going through a really hard part of his life and what he doesn't know it is really hard for me too. My parents are divorced and I don't get to see him as often as I want, but when I am there he is normal drunk and when I ask his gf when he started she says as soon as he woke up. It makes me mad, because he just isn't wrecking his own life he is affecting mine too. I love my dad and I couldn't stand to lose him! He just doesn't get it. He thinks he is going to be fine. I have talked to him about how I feel about his drinking and he says he is fine and not to worry about him, but he isn't fine. He just doesn't get it, and how am I not going to worry about him he is my dad!!
Trying to stop myself Drinking
- I feel the pain in all of the stories I am a horrible nasty abusive MONSTER when drunk iv hurt my children mother and lost a wonderful partner.I hate alcohol and what it does to me I want to stop drinking alcohol
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- My mum just picked up another drink after getting back from rehab a few weeks ago. She tells me she is fine but I dont know whether she really is. She says not to tell my dad who has been really horrible to her verbally and I don't know who else I could possibly tell. I am stuck and worries plus i have exams coming up for my High School Certificate in a week. Its not her fault though as it has been in her family for 7 generations. I cannot blame her.
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My dad drinks
- I'm not sure if my dad is even an alcoholic or not, but he seems to always be drunk/under the influence of alcohol. He tries to hide his drinking habits from my mum childishly by hiding his drinks down the side of the house. Mum knows though, and they always fight. Mum has a disease that means she always needs to sleep, so she's often not around to stop my dad drinking and he always acts annoying and weird (not abusive at all, just plain weird) and he's been embarrassing on occasions when he's drunk around my friends. I've tried talking to him but he just says it's his choice and it doesn't matter if he drinks or not, that I'm not his mother and I cannot tell him what do to. I know my situation isn't half as bad as the stories that everyone else has published, but I've been really affected by my day's drinking habits because I feel so hopeless, angry, stressed and annoyed to the point of constant sadness. It's horrible.
- —Guest Stressed
Want to believe
- When we met we were both in recovery and in the aa program I fell off the wagon hard and picked up horrible drugs and did horrible things for about five weeks he stayed sober and by my side as a supportive loving friend. If it wasnt for his love and compassion I dont know if i would have made it through. I am five months sober and in the span of those months I have supported his attempts at recovery at least ten times. he gets horrible drunk it is a night mare he calls me horrible names, spits on my face, cops come, he shatters my windshield to car and chokes me, slaps me. i want to love him because he loved me when i was using we just found out were pregnant and last night he choked me so badly i passed out he went to hospital then to jail they took pictures of my neck and i am hoping court will order mandatory treatment how has it come to this?
- —Guest recovering alcoholic myself
Change for the better
- Its frustrating i know, the thing u gotta know is if the person doesnt want help then the person doesnt want help. u can't change à person if he doesnt wanna change, ive been in this situation before n this situation before, the best thing i did for myself is walked out that door and never looked back. My boyfriend was an alcoholic, one day i just said "f*** it, that's it I'm done" and left. after 5months he showed up on my door step and said he was attending aa meetings and has green sober for 4 1/2 months, I was amazed, I wanted to cry. He was the same guy I fell in love with before he became a heavy drinker. The things he did when he was drunk, went on binges and wouldnt come home a week later. He completely changed. My advice would be to keep ur ground, if this person doesnt wanna change don't let him/her bring u down with them. Stand ur ground and make a change for the better
- —Guest lissa
There is a Better Day Ahead : )
- After reading all posted on this site, all I can say is, " You've been given a life separate from anyone else's, your accountable for yourself, actions and what you've done to others. SO IS THE ALCOHOLIC!". Build yourself up by attending AA or Al-Anon. Get informed and educated, then make a Decision. My Guess is your pretty smart, plus have value and a lot to offer! You only live one life! "Please don't let the past determine your future, only what this moment says you'll do".! Make your future, goals and dreams come true! : ) YOU CAN DO IT!
- —Guest Happy