- Unemployment, losing everything you have worked for, but as they say those are material things. What do you do with no house or food on the table?
- —Guest Steve
2 1/2 years
- I am able to get to 2 1/2 to 3 1/2 years clean, but I haven't made it to 4 years (yet). The holidays trigger me. I start getting depressed around Halloween, and the stress increases as the time nears for me to spend time with my family. Every year I say to myself, "not this year." Every year I do something different for the holidays to decrease the stress. Like last year I didn't put up outside lights and didn't put up my Dickens Village. And after 2 1/2 years I had two glasses of wine. How crazy is that. Any suggestions for this holiday season are welcomed.
Compulsion to drink has been removed
- I honestly can't remember the last time a trigger has made me want to drink or use. It have been 6 years, 2 months since my last drink. So, how did I get to the point where the compulsion to drink has been removed? Early on, went to at least one meeting daily. I got a sponsor and worked the steps. I studied the big book and the 12 x 12 and got into service very early on. And today, I am in service, have a sponsor and attend 3-5 meetings per week. Stay in the solution and you'll stay out of the problem(s.) This isn't to say that situations won't arise which are difficult, emotional, painful and challenging. Life guarantees those things. But, as The Promises state on P. 84 of the big book, "We will intuitively know how to handle things which used to baffle us." So, thoroughly work the program and what used to be a 'trigger' becomes but an opportunity.
- —Guest Andrew
- My biggest triggers seem to be when someone or something annoys me. Then I think it's ok to go and drink because I am annoyed. Like drinking the poison, hoping the other persons dies! I have been sober for nine days now and really new at this. Thanks for all good info here!
- —Guest Joni
- My primary addiction is alcohol from which I have been sober for almost 2 years. I was also at one point addicted to work. Here's the problem. I have replaced the alcohol with abusing prescription meds. I quit that then became addicted to exercise. I moderated that then overate. I got that under control then I started getting involved in addictive relationships e.g. had an affair with my psychiatrist. I ended that so for a few months now I have had no addictions plaguing my life. I even quit cigarettes recently. But what's next and how can I prevent picking up another addiction in order to satisfy the craving for a high?
- —Guest Crossaddict
- I exercise 1-2 hours a day for triathlons. The warm fuzzy feeling from endorphins when exercising is exactly as I feel when drinking so the temptation is to extend the feeling. Eventually I get frustrated with the effect on my training but after afew weeks when I have recovered the temptation re-occurs
- —Guest cyclist
- I feel helpless. My daughter has relapsed after 4 months. She refuses to take her Antabuse and chooses to drink. I have a two year old boy in the house and can no longer live like this. However, if I kick her out I fear she may attempt suicide. I want to run away but I cant.
- —Guest Mary B
Stress and anger
- Stress and my inability to express unhappiness and anger lead to my recent relapse, I am now sharing more at meetings and it's helping a lot.
Do not despair
- I am sober in AA for 25 years, not bragging or complaining. It always is just for today. I could not stop drinking. If I am afraid of a trigger, it means the gun is still loaded. I need to continue with thorough inventory and disposing of what is not worth having and cultivating what is desirable. We all know the difference. We all look for fulfillment, ecstasy, instead of looking in a bottle, look in love, for God, self, others. It could not be that you be thwarted in a whole hearted search for God. Do not despair. Rest when you must, but never quit. May God richly bless all who seek the peace and fulfillment they desire. God bless you.
- —Guest aa1985
- Stress, plain and simple money problems, boyfriend's little white lies, bad memories. I am new to recovery, and am just looking at this tough road ahead seems insurmountable. But it must happen. I've done so many things I regret and hurt people that I love dearly. I have got to get past this slimy pit of self loathing in my belly, the shaking hands, the house of cards barely holding around me.
Get totally smashed every 6 weeks
- I don't know what the real answer is. I feel let down by my family and some friends. I like to hug and be hugged. Seems kind of needy right? I don;t think so. I work in the hospitality industry and it seems every meeting or client event has to do with alcohol. I probably focus too much on alcohol and not on the events. I like to let loose every couple of months and then when I get home my wife for ten years is so understanding, yet I feel she chastises me. I know she means well, but sometimes I just want to come home and be left alone. Which is a terrible way to treat someone that loves you. Although she understands, she also is clueless why I need to blow steam every couple of months. I love her so much and I am never selfish. She says I am the perfect husband except for those nights I blow steam off. I hope we all can get a hug daily to remind us that everyone has an issue that needs to be nurtured. Best wishes to all. Keep on living!
- —Guest father
- My biggest trigger, for years, was the inability to truly own the 1st Step. Taking accountability that I was powerless (doesn't matter why) over alcohol and my life had become unmanageable. Get that step in your hearts and minds and work the rest every day. Try to attend a "Step Meeting" at least once a week - hang on when you need to and pick up the phone! AA can work for anyone if the alcoholic is truly willing to work the program. Freedom from alcohol and drugs is what we can all have - not freedom from the ups and downs of life - just learning how to live life on life's terms not ours.
- —Guest john m
- I drank quite regularly for nearly 5-years and finally realized and admitted to myself that I had a problem. I've been completely sober for 110 days now, but now find myself alone while my wife is away for the weekend. I have had an ongoing dilemma in my mind from the moment she left - "should I use this opportunity to drink while she's gone or not?" Now, 24-hours later, I'm still sober, thank God. I am currently very proud of myself for avoiding alcohol thus far. I'm worried that if I were to buy an "innocent 6-pack" for the weekend, I'd quickly fall back into my old, terrible habits. It's the memories of my depression, lack of self-respect, distrust I created with my wife, and overall poor health that keeps me from drinking. Not to mention that I'd be terribly upset with myself if I had to begin my "sober count" at 0 again. I feel great knowing I've had 110 days sober!
- —Guest Mountain Guest
Relapse after 1 1/2 years
- I can't tell my story, because I don't think anyone will understand.. I was sober, worked hard as hell for it after drinking every day of my life from age 19 to 34. That's a lot of years to drink every day, and I'm not talking about a beer a day. I drank 4 to 5 bottles of wine and a 12 pack a day no problem. I hate that I have become a perfect sneak or someone who can hide all they feel, I am so sick of this disease and I wish I could control it. What the hell am i supposed to do? I am not an AA person. I've been to at least 100 different meetings and I just don't connect with anyone. After rehab I tried meetings, but I guess when it comes to my own problems I just don't like telling people my secrets. So I stayed sober and lonely for a while, but eventually it got easier until money problems came into effect and now i picked it up again - not every day, but I started sneaking a shot or two. I think because I don't have anybody to talk to. Help, I'm not AA material.
- —Guest cant tell U
My biggest relapse triggers
- My biggest relapse triggers are definitly stress. And unneeded stress cause by others. An example of this is my boyfriend. I have to step back and calm my self down and remember that it will only effect me in a negative way if I relapse. He doesn't get it.
- —Guest Kimberly