- My husband is an alcoholic, the impact it has on our lives is just too sad to even share. He lies in order to have that drink, hides it everywhere, the promises he has made then the threats that he is going to kill himself. There is no help available for him we have been told until he accepts that he is an alcoholic and wants to help himself. This is a cruel disease which is socially unacceptable to talk about. How can I get him to stop?
Why can we not stop?
- In my journey of sobriety I have found that my addiction is from not wanting to deal with reality. Drinking is a side effect from my fears, loneliness, bad relationships, poor upbringing and low self esteem. Getting sober is just getting sober with out addressing my real issues. In order to find true sobriety I had to make changes. The more I faced my fears and pain the easier it has become to stay sober. In doing this I had to reach out for help. It is possible to live a happy life. My life has left behind my denials. I am walking forward with what ever it takes even if it means I had to leave behind those I love. I was killing myself and I am not ready to die. Love is not caring about your self for others it is about doing the right thing for me. I deserve a decent life and in all reality I am the only one who can have that. It's not easy but can be done. Put down the drink and do not pick up, that is how it is done. Hugs clue
- I'm in your court. One 24 hour section of life at a time. Hang in, it's in you to get on the road. This is a forum of hope. Please don't think/drink all your troubles every moment of every day. Just try to manage today. That's enough. I'm coming up to day 50. Not a drop, not a regret. No mourning the beast. The head talk changes, give it time. Chris, keep 'er going, awesome, just awesome. Best to you and all in these pages.
- —Guest B52
Continued - Shocked...
- that I am an alcoholic, and that I cannot control my consumption of alcohol once I start. I admit I do often want to start drinking again because I am addicted to the substance and it is one of the only ways I have developed to cope. The answer is to accept or admit the fact that alcohol has had an overwhelming impact on our lives and to somehow get the courage to seek help. When the relapses, like in my case, happen often, I think we have to find a way to maintain sobriety. I haven't achieved this yet, but I do believe that the answer is to surrender and accept what lies ahead instead of being so afraid of it without alcohol. We have to have the guts to live sober, however scary it may seem, because "living" drunk, for me, has become much more scary. Thanks to everyone for sharing their experiences. It really helps. A special thanks to Igotaclue, Marilyn and Yvan and many others for their wonderful input!
- —Guest hope 21
Shocked by the truth
- I wrote here a few months ago, basically saying that I had had enough and had recognized how much drinking had robbed me of my health, my looks, my relationships, my ambition, my career, my interests, my love of life and of others, etc. I had had it and sincerely wanted to end the sad cycle of downhill living. I wanted to stop drinking for good and start living. I was sincere. I was fed up of seeing my life being swallowed up by alcohol. What happened? I stopped for a while and then went back. How did I go back? I thought that maybe I could buy a bottle, a small one, and nobody would know or notice, and it would be just for now, for today.... Well, today always became tomorrow and the day after that and so on. I have done this countless times. What does that behavior and mindset mean? That I am an alcoholic, and that I cannot control my consumption of alcohol once I start, and I do often want to start because I am addicted to the substance and it is one of the only ways I have develop
- —Guest hope21
Try to stop number 7
- My entire family drinks some more than others. my Husband who i love dearly only drinks ln friday or saturday but he drinks until he falling down. i really want to quit this time im on day 3 of reducing the amonut of alcohol tonight i will try only 2 to 3 drinks than hopefully tomorrow is last day terrible dreams last night and i wake up every couple hours. im afraid i will have to divorce my Husbsnd he said he wont give up alcohol. very sad. i love him very much. but if i dont give it up i know i will die. Lucy is back again! pray for me please!
- —Guest alcoholism.com
180 days, 6 months!
- I cannot drink like others. One is too many and a 1000 not enough. Thanks to all who have shared their journey alongside of mine. And thank you B52 for your kind words. Today I am sharing a milestone. May it give strength to those who seek what we seek. Whether we know it or not, we are all in this together.
- —Guest Eastport Chris
- I don't lie, and lies dont fit in with us. .I am now yet again on the tail end of hell.money spent, family lied to, people let down.6 days hard ..took a calmer I bought off the street.i will be back to reality tomorrow. .apartment smells .saw a lot of bad things this time, decent people just lost in this same cycle. ...I will promise to you all who gave me time and responses that I will try harder than my hardest. Financially, mentally, exhausted. ..dont give up on me.
- —Guest Halo
- Clue, thanks for the post. Your right about having to do it for myself because the reality is I have been making promises to myself for years to do it for others but never stuck at it. Anyway managed six days now and although tired sticking with it. Just got to get days, weeks and months sober so I know I'm moving forward. Again thanks for the support and your an example of how it can be done!
- —Guest Plantpot
- I have tried aa, group therapy, etc u name it. discovered hypnotherapy..very qualified person. stopped drinking wine next day...am in second week, have no urge to drink wine, but the withdrawal symptoms are moderate to severe...i am going to make it this time.
- —Guest pd
Why Did I do That?
- I was dry for 47 days, then last weekend decided to buy some booze. I drank hard for 3.5 days, then slowed down and stopped last night. It's sort of a Day 1 again, except rather than withdrawals I think I'm just feeling hungover. If I just go back to what was working for me (get enough sleep, lots of exercise, three regular meals plus healthy snacks, and don't spend too much time alone) I know it works. I just can't figure out why I decided to relapse? That booze is nasty stuff...
- —Guest Way Enough
- You have many valid questions about becoming sober. My first question to you are you really convinced that you can't drink like a normal Drinker. Are you planning your life around your next drink? Do you think you are fooling anyone about how bad your drinking is? Do you really want a life without booze? I doesn't cost much to stop drinking. No hospitals will not turn you away, you can get aid if you look for it. AA is free to go to, there is free counseling if you seek if. there are sober living homes. There is so much out their to help you, even online AA classes. When you are really ready to kick your habit there will be many doors that will open for you. This life change has to come from you and nobody else It is you life, your responsibility to over come. Detox is not fun but is do able. many have done it. The main point is are you willy to do what it takes. Read all these post and grab all the knowledge it contains. Start with just one hour at a time and read & read. Hug
- First let me say I am sorry for you loss. Losing a child is a very hard thing to get past. I am sure drinking has helped you in the past but it has turned it's back on you. It now has become your worst enemy. I am sure you know what you need to do to change your life. The thing is to do it and not just think about it. You deserve to have a happy life and drinking will rob all of your happiness. Reach out for help, maybe join a group that has lost children and also AA. Counseling will help you to understand you can let go of your pain, or how you can at least live with it without destroying yourself in the process. The first step is doing something about your drinking. See a doctor first, he will be your best friend to start your healing. Sound body helps get a sound mind. There is hope to have a better life just no hope with alcohol in it. Hugs Clue
Any answers help
- Please help, any clue that might help. No funding, hep c. Messed up. Can anyone help with DIY detox? Already put a post up, few days ago. Not good at texting etc. Give me advice. Love
- —Guest lee galand
To: Eastport Chris, Q,
- Chris: You inspire me, spectacular! Still in early days, 42 days in from my run. Q, I am very sorry to hear of the dreadful condition you are in. As you posted so clearly, just "a couple". After reading all the posts here so many have tried "a couple" and ended up worse off than ever. Warning to me that I can't have (and I don't want) to try a couple. At least not today. Scary to read what you are facing. I hope you will start to find it easier soon. Messed up sleep/fatigue is part of withdrawal. Not allowing myself to think I can have one drink and reading the disastrous results of posters who have tried keep me facing my grass roots - one drink and I'm back on the ride and that hellish amusement park never closes. I have to 'man up' to that and stay armed to get through each new day. I don't want the horror of relapse, after reading your post and those of others in relapse, I hope you/all can get this done with. I don't want to go back. Your post keeps me mindful. Thanks, and best
- —Guest B52