To Belfast Colin
- Hi Colin, You may have read my post to you yesterday & thought it incomplete; well, it did not appear as intended or submitted due apparently to some technical glitch (per BuddyT). I wanted to let you know that you are not alone in your plight in caring for an ailing parent; in my case it is parent(s), although my dad is dying from cancer & my mother is mentally ill. I wanted to refer you to a thread on the adjacent forum (link upper right)..."TO ALL" started by Yvan. It details my ordeal throughout the thread, and the compassionate responses from members here, & I specifically ask others in Post 17854.142 to offer their prayers & support to you as they have done so generously to me. You are very strong for all that you have done & continue to do. Always remember that. And please again do not drink during these last precious moments of your mother's life & give her the forever gift of your sobriety thereafter. Peace to you and may God bless your Mom.
- I had the itchy skin for almost three weeks. I was using of all things Head & Shoulders dandruff shampoo as a body wash. Aveeno or any lotion with oatmeal. I carried some with me all the time. Which looked really awkward for a guy to carry but at that point I really, really didn't care. I just wanted the itching to stop. Good luck, hope that helps
- Instead of cold turkey. Not enough money or time off to rehab. Extremely tough since you need a tremendous amount of self-control. I have done it before with success. Worse symptoms were shakes, massive night sweats (I slept with two pillows and change of dry cloths), diarrhea, fuzzy/light head. Went from 750ml a day to zero in two weeks. Just got really tired of vomiting in the shower every morning. Every time I think of drinking again all I do is remember all pain withdrawal put me through. After 25 years of drinking (I'm 40) I am finally done.
- Thank you all for such inspiring stories. I'm really doing this. Shakes, cold all the time, night sweats, palpitations ugh. Seems to get a little better every day. Head's still kinda foggy. Having a hard time making decisions. Don't really want to be around anyone. But already feeling better than I was when I was drinking every night. Hopefully the worst is over. Good Luck and best wishes to all of you on the same journey.
3 weeks in
- I decided that 2014 I would be alcohol free. I quit smoking last year cold turkey and abstained completely so alcohol should be a cake walk right? 2 days in and I was having some really sharp pains on my right side that would bring me to my knees. I mean it was really bad. I went to the ER and after a sono and a CT my liver was enlarged and they found what appears to be a lesion on my kidney. I was also a little anemic and my RBCs and platelet count is low. The doctor said it is probably due to poor iron and B vitamin absorption related to the alcohol abuse. This was the 29th of December but the last night I drank was on the 26th. That evening I went to the hospital I was going to give myself one last hurrah for the road but after that news the thought of drinking ever again felt like putting a gun in my mouth and pulling the trigger. I have not had a drink for 3 weeks today. Those sharp pains and headache are gone the fog is gone the only thing still hanging around is a stomach ache.
- —Guest Chris
Up n down
- Hi all, just seeking some advice and maybe a virtual hug. I'm 9 days sober and finding it all pretty tough. Can't sleep, depressed. ..... hating it all. The worst is it took losing the love of my life to bring me here. Rock bottom. Does the mental retardedness go after a few weeks? Insomnia?
- —Guest squizzy
- Withdrawals can be very painful, and scary. They can lead to seizures, DT; medical should be the option if things get worse. I didn't last year, I didn't either after my short relapse in December. I was lucky this time, a week and I was almost back to normal. Last year, it took me at least 2 weeks to get better physically, and my mental state of mind was the hardest to deal with. Magnesium and vits B are a great help; energy drinks are very helpful too. Time is the healer. We harm our bodies so much, it is when we stop we realize how ill we are. I was so scared as well, I thought my liver was damaged for ever, diarrhea went on for days, the worst of all was I couldn't sleep, it took me weeks to be able to get 4-5 hours sleep. Alcohol is such a destructor. What I know is, we can live without it, WE CAN. My last relapse taught me once more life can be beautiful. The first drink brought me back to hell. I understand your fear. Give yourself a bit more time. It gets better. Hugs. Yvan.
- —Guest Yvan.
- Hello Claire. Like you, I had that horrible itching, it's part of the detox, the liver getting rid of the toxins. It went on for a couple of weeks, and drove me mad. I bought some allergy tablets, and it did relief the itching, not 100%, but much more bearable. After about a month, it was gone. Going cold turkey can be painful, but slowly our bodies recover. It's good you didn't have major signs. For me, itching, headaches, and insomnia were the worst. Stay strong, one week is huge already. 1st step to feel better, and make our lives happier. Keep posting please. Hugs. Yvan.
- —Guest Yvan
1 week sober, the world is different
- Thanks Yvan for the encouragement to go to AA. I still haven't been - spoke to my other half about coming with me and then realized that would be using him as i used alcohol, to dilute my shyness and give me a crutch. I should go alone and embrace the full experience for me, crying or not. He would support me but this is my fight & i realize its very personal. Almost like fighting me, or the old me. After 7 days i can see clearly, think straight altho head fog still lingers, and my aching side is all but gone. I ate a lot of chocolate (and thought of TashDa!) yesterday but i'm not going to beat myself up about it, better than wine! I am still very on the edge of tears almost all of the time and need to move house, job and live my life with vigor. So much time has been wasted being unhappy, masking that with booze, then being even more unhappy. The rose tinted glassed are sliding off, the view isn't great but it was a lot more ugly before - now i hope to get the power back to change i
- —Guest Louise
To Belfast Colin
- I have been thinking of you since you first posted, as I am in a similar situation & understand your torment & pain. I am caring for my dying Dad, in my parents' home, & also have a 2nd patient in my Mom, who is not physically but mentally ill, & has made the ordeal even more excruciating. I commend you for caring for your Mom & maintaining your sobriety, but there does come a time when "care taker burnout" takes over & self-preservation is key. Also I urge you not do drink to ease your pain but share with her these last precious moments, & do not drink after she is at peace in her memory and as your forever gift to her. My thoughts & prayers are with you
Going through it right now
- I am 4 days sober. I have been a pretty hard drinker for the better part of the last 5 years, just a 'moderate' one for many years before that. I have had longer and shorter stints with alcohol. Neither of which were ever good. I even took myself to treatment last year in hopes of making sobriety happen. Short lived. I quit going to treatment, 6 months in and began drinking again. Last Friday was my last drink. I've had withdrawal symptoms before, but this time is very different. My body is just 'done' with this drinking nonsense. The first day was ok. I felt a little tired and ALOT ashamed, some cramping and black watery stool. The second day was extreme depression, shame, no appetite, not sleeping, stomach cramping, more diarrhea. The third day, yesterday was HORRIBLE. I couldn't eat. I couldn't concentrate. I was sweating profusely, felt like I had a super high fever. When I did eat, I was sick almost instantly. Vomiting, diarrhea, dizziness, heart exploding. I was/am very afraid.
Seriously itchy skin
- Hi everyone :) I'm a week sober now going cold turkey. The initial withdrawal was fine, i had the sweats and fever but nothing major. Until 3 days in and the constant itching started. It's so intense, it's like something is constantly crawling over my skin! It's gotten so bad that my skin feels bruised from all the itching. Has anyone else had this? I've taken an antihistamine but it's not helping in the slightest! Congrats and well done to all of you, you're so inspiring xx
- —Guest Claire
- Thank you so much for your kind words. How wonderful that you have come to share your success with us. 3 Christmas of sobriety, how awesome is that. You have showed us that there is life after drinking. That is what I try to do. Many alcoholics don't get a chance to hear that finding sobriety and being happy with that choice is doable. Come back and share about your new life with us ok. Happy New years to you and yours too! Hugs Clue
- 6 days now and the head fog seems to be the worse withdrawal part I'm suffering from. Wait, not suffering - recovering - my drunk self was all about suffering, myself and loved ones. Think my liver might be ok. Everyone just keep on the path!
- —Guest eliz333
To Belfast Colin
- Dear Colin. Do not feel guilt feel proud you can be there for her. Without having to care in the helpings sense you can be there as you. As her son who she needs more than anything. Her last moments will be less painful knowing you are there for her and your last moments with her will be more precious. I have worked in healthcare in uk for over 30yrs. So many people have no one. Be with her and give her the gift of knowing you are ok lots of love and good wishes. Bernie x
- —Guest Bernie