- Back to day 1, after having 35 days without a drink thought I would get away it. How wrong I was. Verbally abused my partner again and told a horrible lie which I can't even repeat.Going through the usual remorse and anxiety. Why can't I do it, it's killing me and I am on the verge of losing it all.When will I wake up and accept that I can't have the first drink. So sick and tired of being sick and tired.
- September 11, 2013. First day sober. I am the 12 to 18 beers a night kind of guy. Trying to stay upbeat but can't sleep, no hunger at all and my brain seems so confused. I'm sure it will pass in a couple days, but until then I guess I just have to suffer through it. I already have sky high blood pressure, so I guess I better find some natural ways to keep that under control. Tomorrow night = 48 hours dry. I can't wait. I really look forward to having a sober weekend for the first time in over 3 years.
- —Guest beerlover
To: Lin 16 days
- 16 days wow, your on your way! The only advice I have for you is feel good about what you are doing for yourself. Be kind and patient with your self. Don't buy into the thinking that because your feeling better you can pick up a drink to check it out. Celebrate instead with your family and good friends your new journey and the happiness it brings! When the tears come look at them as cleansing your soul from all the misery that your alcohol addiction has brought to you. Be strong! Hugs Clue
- 14 days is huge! You can do this! Telling our self that we can't deal with stress without drinking is something I did too. It is true that drinkers DO NOT KNOW HOW to deal with stress. I found that I could challenge myself in finding ways to trick my brain. For me I made if fun. That sounds strange but out smarting my brain and its old thinking gave me back my self esteem and it felt good! We become 2 people when getting sober with the devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other. We know in our hearts what is the right thing to do so I left my brains advice out of my poor choices. I have learned how to manage stress, the best thing I have ever done, and now have the tools I needed to live life with its ups and downs. A much better way to live then being drunk and its destruction. Check it out, take some classes, read some books, get physical again! Do the work. Hugs Clue
- Cravings after quitting drinking are a pain in the butt for sure. They last just a short time but you need to look at what is going on. Cravings can happen from being hungry, tired, bored, stressed or dealing with feelings that maybe uncomfortable. When having a craving I tell myself it will pass and then think about all the positive things I have. I have made a list of things that I think are positive blessings and start my day with a quick read. It is a great way to start my day plus my list is getting bigger the longer I am sober. Staying sober takes not only a strong will but a complete change in our thinking. Be patient with your self and give yourself some big congratulations each morning because it is a new day without drama and self loathing. Congrats to you and your sobriety !!!! Hugs Clue
- Just keep doing more of the same. Share your strengths and experiences with others and, if someone has a problem you relate to or have experienced yourself, feel free to 'weigh in'. Welcome, by the way:-)
- —Guest Mary
- I am finally realizing I am an alcoholic. I am a super quiet person but my life has changed after becoming someone I don't want to be after drinking. There are days where I will wake up and feel happy but I still want to drink. How do you all overcome this?
- —Guest Eureka
- 1. Gradually reduce your alcohol consumption to 1/3 of what you would normally drink over 7 days.During this period you may need to use valium 5mg if you get tremors/anxiety but no more than 5 tabs over 7 days (take one about 4- 8 hours before sleep,also you may need to use a mild sleeping pill such as Restavit if you are a very heavy drinker as falling asleep can be difficult (half a pill) will suffice for most but then again only use if needed.Drink Hydration liquids e.g (Hydralyte) 500 mls per day and at least 2 liters of water through out the day and eat a high protein diet.Now comes the hard part (Day 1 of sobriety).The toughest part will be getting through the day and particularly getting to sleep as you may feel energetic,high levels of excitability (Mania) so at this stage use a strong sleeper such as (Temazepam) half an hour before sleep but DO NOT use (Valium) while on Temaz.An evening 1/2 hour walk after dinner may help also.
- —Guest Kev
- Hi Clue I just wanted to tell you I think you have tremendous wisdom, class and graciousness. You are an inspiration.
- —Guest TashDa
- I just wanted to say that I think you are a wise, kind, genuine, and very giving person. I appreciate your honesty, and I know that you have helped many people that read here. Thank you!
- —Guest daddytbone
To Louise day 5
- I am now on day 23 and yes the sweats, anxiety and sheer dreadfulness do go away. I have now however found I am passing the blame for my problem onto others. I think it is another way of kicking out and dealing with this. Keep going, keep choosing life x
- So happy to have made it to day 16...week 1 was hard! Still at 4pm I get jittery! I am trying to do different activities at happy hour time. Any other advice?
- —Guest Lin
- Nannylovesyou raised some issues that I can relate to. Alcohol is so pervasive in our society (try living in Australia) there is really no way to avoid contact with it. If we cave in we can be drinking within minutes so we have no time to rethink and once we have the first we are powerless. The only way to stay dry is through our own will power. For those of us that try to get off it alone (without AA etc.) there is really no support, we might get sympathy but not empathy. Finding the will (and) power to break the back of my dependence has been the most frustrating, difficult and lonely thing I have ever done. I felt angry, resentful, confused, shunned and abandoned as I struggled with madness in a seemingly uncaring world. I don't really tell people why I am not drinking (years of chronic depression) I just say health reasons but if I had to I would lie and say heart problems or something because I never want to go back to living that hell or go through withdrawals again. Thanks Clue.
- —Guest Itsover
Drinking and smoking
- Day 16, zero alcohol. Something I have not achieved before on this journey. Did 19 days before but allowed myself 1 beer on 2 different occasions. Was ok with that telling myself this is really all about control but I realize now that allowing myself just 1 beer sets me up for the inevitable slip. Last time I slipped I very nearly relapsed only the self awareness, self control and inner peace that I have gained from being dry helped me pull back. Been really trying to stay dry for three months now just a handful of slips in that time. Feel myself getting stronger every day, I know I never want to go back to the emotional hell I was living in. To Louise, I wouldn't advise giving up drinking and cigarettes at the same time. I really needed to smoke during withdrawals even though I was hating it. Since I have gained more control I am going to try to quit cigarettes now too. I really feel that I have a great chance at success this time simply because I wont be drinking.
- —Guest Itsover
14 days and I messed up tonight
- I went 14 days w/o a drink did good, but with the stress of work and everything piling up I drank. 8 beers in 35 minutes. I guess its back to day one.
- —Guest tryin2quit