To big Fish and all
- Thank u, if ever I think I dont need to go, I reminded every morning when I get up skitzin out till I get booze in me. Cant live like this, know what its like being sober and healthy and i love that Cheryl. U wonderful people helped me more than you will ever know to make this decision, I luv you all for it. God Bless and keep posting and pushing me lol. I'm going.
To the Veteran Posters
- I just wanted to thank the "veteran posters" such as (but not limited to!) Big Fish, omgirl, Harmony, and especially Hope1962 for being there for me the last few months. I was always a reader so I feel like I know you guys obviously a lot better than you know me. Been posting about a month and it really feels good to be here. Today is 32 days without a drink. Harmony and Hope from reading through your recent posts it seems like you have hit some tough events and some negative emotions. Just know we're all here for you and rooting for you to stay on a bright path in recovery.
- —Guest Matty
- Andy you've made it 6 weeks before, that shows that you obviously have the strength to get through the tough parts of withdrawal. The cravings get tough I know what you mean. Please don't take the next thing I say the wrong way or personally it's just that some of the things that you're saying remind me so much of me (and I'm only sober for a little over a month so we're basically in the same shoes). When I was drinking I would always try to formulate reasons or a list of things that if I had or was able to do I would definitely just quit drinking for. I would tell myself if I had a better job that I'd have to get up for I would quit. I was a waiter and I'd actually drink before my shifts so I was more social. But I now realize that these are all just excuses. I personally believe that if we're alcoholics we're going to drink. I've drank when employed and jobless; single and in a relationship. Broke and with money. We have to deal with why we're drinking. We can do this for ourselves!
- —Guest Matty
- Back at day one for me, shaking and baking, really enjoyed your All About Eve analogy.
- —Guest lifeterms
- Omgirl, thanks so much for sharing information about this book. For some reason, the message you conveyed really resonates with me. It's weird because just the other day when I was doing some thinking I came to the realization that I like not drinking because I actually enjoying experiencing everything that happens to me in an authentic and "unadulterated" way. And if that means just dealing with the emotions or outcome of something bad, and being unhappy that's okay. It's about time that we/I deal with our emotions. For too long I'd either feel okay about something that was negative because I was buzzed or wallow in my sorrows and get drunk and make something bad way worse. So thanks for sharing this information I will definitely look into that book. And if you haven't heard of the book "Siddartha" by the German author Hermann Hesse, it is a classic and a really good read. Cheers
- —Guest Matty
Just found your site
- It's day 36 for me. Went to a cocktail last Christmas and a buddy of mine was puring wine, but she wasn't drinking. Asked her why as I was sipping on a glass and she said she quit 20 years ago because it wasn't fun anymore. That stuck with me. I have been every day, and it is so much a part of my career life. Non stop lunches, dinners, parties and business meetings all with booze. I told my husband about my friends comment and that I wanted to quit, and he thought I was crazy and that I didn't have drinking problem. So then in January he got an assignment in overseas so I decided to drop him off at the airport and then quit that same day. He'll be gone for a year so by the time he gets back the deed will be done. Well what I didn't know was all of the side effects. I have gone through racing heart beats, sweats, shakes, crying, depression, rage, panic attacks and non-stop insomnia. Now at day 36 I am fatigued all day. No desire to drink but when will I feel energy again?
- I am so glad that your parents are helping you, I know if it was my son nothing would be too much. They love you dearly and they must be so proud of you for reaching out and trying to get help, I would be/ I am. I love your user name, it is so positive. You can do this, we all can. You were very brave to admit to your parents/doctor that you had a problem with drink, hold on to that strength and when the sweating comes welcome it. When you can't sleep remember that drink caused it but won't cure it, passing out isn't sleeping. God bless donewithit, we are all rooting for you.
- —Guest mary
To: Openandwilling and omgirl
- Thanks for the detox details, I will try it. Thanks also to bigfish, am taking the magnesium and gave some to my brother in law but he's doing it for my sister not himself. I told him he was an alcoholic like myself but because he is also functioning, he is in denial. When I said about his red face he claimed it was from taking his dog for a walk each morning. In Britain! Unless it's frostbite he is in serious denial!
- —Guest mary
- Hi there, you can survive without a drink after work, especially if you survived the weekend. Well done for not drinking in front of your kids, a major pat on the back and a huge achievement. Don't worry about next week etc, just come home from work and tell yourself, 'not this drink, not today' I found that mantra a massive help. How can you give in when you have all of us metaphorically holding your hand? We won't let you. If you do though, come back to us, we need you too.
- —Guest mary
To: Guest robert1952
- Dearest Robert, My heart goes out to you. I cannot believe what you are going through. Thank God you have your daughter to care for you. Keep strong Robert, we are all sending warmest thoughts to you. I truly don't know what to say, words are inadequate.
- —Guest mary
- Hi Cheryl, I am so proud of you for taking that step. Please don't back out, we are all with you. You are an amazing, strong woman and you will son be an amazing, strong, sober woman. We won't let you go through this alone, of course we will be here for you. Proud of you.
- —Guest mary
- I wanted to tell you earlier that you post on your new serenity really struck me. I wish I were there. Was there for a lot of years, where I couldn't imagine ever drinking again, but here I am today. Yeah, I could blame the horrible depression years on what I did to myself, but that is not true. I did what I've done because I wanted to, because when I've had a bit to drink (ok, more than a bit) I become a fabulous cook, a great friend to all (especially those I don't like who, for some reason, I invite to my house for a party). I know I go way back, but do you remember the movie/book "The Three Faces of Eve?" Where this mouse of a woman suddenly changes into "Eve Black" who is really nasty and loves to put "Eve White" into all kinds of embarrassing situations that she does not remember. Well, my take is that this "Eve White" was really getting drunk and has a scapegoat for her following actons. Be well, I'm out of characters.
- —Guest grannyann
- Hi grannyann, I go away weekends and don't have access to the computer. NO! you are not alone. Not only do you have us but you have a family that love you very much. I can't pretend to understand depression I only know that it is something that is hideous and destructive. You have got through something that is black and all consuming so you certainly have the guts/strength to stop drinking. I guess you know that alcohol makes depression worse so I won't teach my (granny) how to suck eggs. You have what many would give everything for, a loving family. Only you can decide when enough is enough but why don't you try tapering down to one bottle a night for a month then take it from there. God bless grannyann, I have my arm around your shoulder.
- —Guest mart
To: Catlover And Bigfish
- The Doctor at the hospital said exhaustion dehydrates your body, even after the water, and gatorade. Day 9 and 10 slept all day, except for water and bathroom. Day 11 brain a little foggy. Feel 100% better otherwise. Now time to exercise, get outside, walk, and go to tanning bed. To help rest I cut everything off and read, or cut the TV real low and lights off calming method, till I'm so tired, and go to bed. Don't give your self time to think, keep your mind busy all the time. It helps so much with sleep and cravings..Love To All
- —Guest Lost In Addiction
- The flush I did was called The Amazing Gallbladder and Liver Flush by Andreas Moritz. There is a book you should read but you can also find the instructions online. It is very cheap and results are amazing. All you need is epson salt, water, olive oil, grapefruit, and apple juice. Anyhow, I agree with the philosophy and if you are wanting to do a flush, this is a great one ; ) I wish you well on this road of recovery. Happy Soul Sunday!