New to this and very nervous
- Hi This is my first time on here. i have admitted to myself i have a problem with alcohol 3 bottles of wine every night. some advice on where to start would really be appreciated
- —Guest Lil B
- Just wanted to say Hi, it's really good to hear from you. I think you have so much compassion and empathy for others I really wish people like you and Sterling who have so much to offer would post more. We would all benefit.
- —Guest Mary
To: Fighting 123 and Patience
- Of course we wish you luck but more than that I wish you strength and determination. You two guys have a lot in common, it's good to go through this at the same time as someone else, it helps keep you focused. Fighting, I noticed you stayed away, you know there's no need to do that, you won't be judged. We've all been where you are and want only to help. I am so glad that you finally went to your doctor, there's no shame in seeking help, it's probably a sensible way to go. You have more courage than me, I wouldn't tell my doctor and bare knuckled it. Then I had to change in order to stay sober, not a great deal, just how I responded to people or events. Good luck to both of you, but whatever happens it helps to talk about it, someone somewhere will have an insight.
- —Guest Mary
- Hi grannyann and thanks for the kind words. Check your inbox.
- —Guest mary
- Hi Patti and welcome. 10 days is a massive accomplishment, read back posts for the vitamins to take and download Addictions And Recovery it has a really good relapse prevention plan, well worth reading. It identifies, or more importantly, helps you identify danger signals and what to do when they occur. Stay close to the site and keep posting, the early days are when you need most support. Good luck.
- —Guest Mary
To: Dave Y
- Yeah Dave, that's really cool, You are doing really well, keep on keeping on, awesome.
- —Guest Mary
- Today I thought it was my regular anxiety problems causing my rapid heart rate, insomnia, sweating, panic, and the pain in my stomach. That's when I realized that I had been on a bender for two weeks straight. It didn't seem like it because I'm pretty good at drinking casually. I just don't usually stop at one, and I started drinking alone. I think I'm only going through withdrawal because of all the days in a row that I did get drunk. Do I have a drinking problem? Can I go back to casual drinking?
- —Guest Wavesoak
That drive home from work
- Started at 16 and drank too much from day 1. Waited till age 62 to reach my `hour of decision` after a drunken Christmas Eve. Now, realizing that somewhere in your inner core, one has to be `Really ready` to quit. From 60-70 drinks / week to zero. Expected withdrawl symptoms and all i got was 4 days of dying for a drink on that 15 minute drive home from work. 2 Cups of hot tea seemed to kill the craving, and yes sleeping was different. But I had been having early morning nightmares recently that the ominous was soon to happen. Drunk Driving, Liver disease, loss of marriage, serious work calamity... Have got 6 & 1/2 weeks sober, and i cannot believe how easy it has been or how much better I think and feel. 46 years of drinking!..Man they sure didn`t cheat me out of any of that! Best of luck to all... Told myself if i got the urge, that i would drive to the nearest AA meeting...but so far, so good.
- —Guest Guest jim_h
- I wake up thinking Im gonna be ok and by time i pour coffee Im not. My car was delivered from Chicago. My daughter and i on our way "here" and she got sicker. Reality has set in. Car seat McDonalds Happy meal box and all. Cleaned it out this is MY reality i know i gotta deal with it. Seen the shrink before it arrived that'll be another session. Opening that car door was like going back in time something I've tried to forget. I just freeze its pathetic. I dread the insomnia people say lasts few weeks it does but now its happening all over. Honestly id Llike to light a match to that vehicle but Im not. I just crawl in my hole. The shrink says I've extreme PTSD with addictive personality and Im paying him for this! Tell me something new? So reality is here parked in my parking space and i keep hurting people i love. Just when i think Im ok i get knocked down again. Ok pity party over
- —Guest Erica
Trying to give it up again
- I love to drink and all these years I believed I was drinking just to relax and the need to keep that nice feeling going on, I would have more and then some more. I think I am totally in control even as I keep drinking, whom am I fooling? You know you have drinking problem when you can't stop after the 1st one. My Mother,an ex-alcoholic is in end stage liver cancer who stopped drinking about 2 years ago at 72 because of cirrhosis. My father died 12 yrs ago again an alcoholic. Having heard it was genetic I believed that was it I hated myself the next morning but was back on. I was at this site about 8 months ago and gave up for nearly a month and then got back drinking. Just reading this magically controlled my desire to drink but when I started again, I just avoided coming here as I would feel let down by myself. This time I feel it's different..I don't want my son to think of me as another statistic in the line of drunks so still worse, be one.
- Happy Birthday, old friend. I guess I need to come to terms that I probably won't ever celebrate one week, let alone one year. The starts and stops of it all is for me, draining. I'm just letting it all go and trying to deal with each day. By the way, I enjoy your posts on the forum! Wish I could respond to you on e-mail, but it doesn't go through. All the best.....
- —Guest grannyann
- Hi everyone just been to pub and drunk orange juice,wow is that cool or is it cool?huggz and xx
- —Guest dave_y
- I wake feeling sick, don't like the taste of alcohol, within half an hour of being out of bed I feel panic ! Lost my husband 6 years ago and feel like I can't cope without a certain amount of wine, ridiculous. I'm losing my life with panic attacks ect. My therapist says it is all physocological wake up feel you can't cope and deal with the withdrawl "deep joy" good luck to all you guy's out there ! xx
- —Guest Susie Hedges
- Hi there, when anything/anybody upsets or irritates me I look carefully at what has been said or done and think it through. It usually tells me more about their problem of letting go of resentment and indicates a lack in their life rather than mine. Think through your anxiety because that's a real danger spot, most times it is caused by situations or people who are really nothing of any consequence and certainly not worth hindering your recovery over.
- —Guest Mary
To: Dave Y
- Hi Dave, you are doing brilliantly. I don't like the sound of your isolation though. Are there any activities in your area that you could join, it may sound silly but, to coin a phrase, unless you change, nothing changes. Do you have a dog you can take for a walk, you'll find the same people at the same routes most days and they're a friendly bunch. It isn't healthy to isolate Dave, you've put a lot of thought into getting sober now you need to focus on staying sober. What were your hobbies or pastimes before drinking became the main one, are there any goals you have always wanted to achieve before you surrendered them to drink. You have the ideal opportunity now Dave to create a new reality/life for yourself. Take baby steps at first if necessary, once your children see that you are moving on then they might want to spend more time with you. Everyone is good at something, find your strengths again Dave and start living a sober life. Best to you.
- —Guest Mary