Most people experience some kind of withdrawal symptoms when they try to quit drinking alcohol. What were the toughest parts of withdrawal for you? Please share what you experienced and how you dealt with it. You also may want to take this quiz
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To: halo and starting over.
- For me becoming sober also brought back the reality that I was sloppy, reckless, self centered and a terrible angry mean drunk. Yes it is true I was selfish and only cared about my next drink. There is nothing I can do about my past. The only thing that made me feel good was to say my sorrys and to make a sort of forgiveness pack with myself. I had real reasons I chose to drink and I had to find out what they were to become sober. I found that if others did not want to forgive I had to still move forward. The only person I had to prove anything to was myself. The only day that matters is today, the past is gone and the future can not be predicted. So I stay in the moment, be the best person I can be just for me. It is my happiness I seek and learning how to do that with out drinking has been my toughest challenged. 2 years now and I have no regrets, I only wish I had become sober sooner. Being sober is exciting, the real me is showing and I like me very much. I am talented and blumin
- I'm still not drinking,no matter what I know this is a good thing the only problem is im at the stage where im getting flash backs of the things i said and done. Im not talking about yesterday afternoon, im talkin years ago. Im really giving myself a hard time and analysing myself and where im going. The problem is im coming up with a bad and pathetic image. My self worth is now being attacked.i know what its doing its whispering tome to give up this game of sobrietyand stop this foolishness and have a drink you useless such and such.
drinking will not solve this i keep repeating.....im beginning to sobriety tested, im depressed, angry, and wondering whats it all about....i wish i could start life again knowing what i know now. thanks
- —Guest halo
Courage to share
- Kevin, I appreciate you sharing your experience with alcohol abuse. I myself went through a frightening experience in the hospital from alcohol abuse. I thought I was going to die. I destroyed my life with alcohol abuse. I lost everything. I was arrested in 2012 for my 3rd DWI. I have worked so hard to get my life back and rebuild a business that God blessed me with. The courts made wear a alcohol monitor bracelet and I had to go through a year of out patient treatment. I found my higher power, and for me it was Jesus Christ. I sought after Him daily, and he healed me over time. However, when the bracelet was removed 2 months ago....I relapsed. I am now full of anxiety and starting to go through that nightmare again. I was extremely sick today and I thought I was going to have to call 911. Im very frightened right now, but I know Jesus is right there with me. I am suffering the consequences of my relapse. Its really scary for me right now. Your story was inspiring.
- —Guest Troy
Day 12.... Thoughts much clearer
- I'm on day 12 of not drinking. I'm past the horrible withdrawal and am now feeling better, at least physically. I see that I am one person when I drink and another reasonable "normal" person when I don't. I also see that I am afraid of dealing with a lot of things without thinking that I need to drink. And that is where most of the problem resides. I have used alcohol as a way to numb my feelings about many aspects of my life and after so long, it's hard for me to envision facing these "regular" life situations without this sickening crutch. Still, I don't want to go back and am taking it one day at a time. Have gone to AA meetings, which I find very helpful. To even consider drinking again after experiencing all the crap that goes along with it and after having survived the anxiety and physical agony of withdrawal just shows how deep this addiction is physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Thanks Igotaclue and Yvan for your responses. They mean a lot! Hope21
- —Guest hope21
- Lucy it sounds like a doctor is necessary for you. I commend you for acknowledging the need to stop drinking, but the symptoms you are experiencing sounds like you need medical intervention. Their is no need to be ashamed of this, and don't be afraid that it will end up on your record. Your health and life are far more important. It is time to end this shame. This disease does not discriminate, it affects everyone from the homeless, to the highest classes of society. It sounds like you have a great, supportive husband, for that you are lucky. Examine all possibilities of support and choose one that would best help you. But please don't be ashamed. You already have taken the first step by admitting you have a problem, and there is hope for a better and sober life for you. Medical detox may be needed, as well as social support such as A.A or Smart recovery. Know there is a better life beyond the bottle. Keep posting, you will receive much support here. Good luck, Marilyn
- —Guest Marilyn
- This question I had to ask myself, " Am I addicted to alcohol or am I addicted to turning to it to fix my problem. When I stopped drinking I was very afraid. Alcohol was what I thought help me up. It made me numb, made me not care about much of anything. With out my dear friend I had to learn how to deal with reality, fear, anxiety, a bad relationship, my kids and thinking I will never be happy again unless I am drunk. You will find that being sober helps bring back your sane thinking. You no longer feel sick and tired and sick and tired. My vision cleared and I could see what was really out their in this world. I want what happy people have, I want a healthy family and to get that I had to say, Clue you have problems that you can not fix. Clue if you pick up one drink you will need 20 more. Clue you can't control your drinking. So what is the answer, don't drink, believe you are killing yourself because you are. A very slow painful one at that. Go to AA and hear the stories.
Last day of drinking
- I have tried 3x before this is my fourth my husband says i should see Dr but i dont want it put on my MIB record. slowing down yesterday only 2 drinks feels like bugs on my skin, headach, memory loss, flahes of light. im going to try only to sip if needed goal to stop is tomorrow. Lucy needs Luck
- —Guest lucy
To hope 21
- You are right. Surrender. I surrended almost 8 months ago, I stopped fighting, I accepted that alcohol will always be the winner, and I will always be the loser. Enough fighting, I stopped the fight, I was exausted, it was easy, I stopped picking the first drink. Then, another fight started, the real fight, the one to face life, to face my fears, the future, facing the past, facing a new way of thinking, acting, find myself again, discovering again my emotions, all my feelings that were buried by a bottle. I had to face reality, I am living now in reality, I am learning every day to live with it, it's scary sometimes, it's easier other times, but I love it. I do exist again, as Clue says, I was killing myself, I don't want to die yet, I want to live, I want to find some happiness, some peace, and getting up everyday and able to say to myself, life is worth it. I can make my life much better now without being a slave of a liquid. Stay strong, believe in your future. It's not a dream.
- —Guest Yvan
- Finally, at last I've gotten passed a few days.it is so hard to do but as said the reality of being drunk all the time is scary stuff.
thanks b52 and all.i really without shame needed your help.
yesterday I woke up which is always a good start and whistled around the house which I had tidied and mopped, and washed the booze sweat out of my bed sheets.it get so disgusting after a few days on the sauce.
I went into dublin city center early for a walk.
it was heaven.no fear, no anxiety no bugs running up and down my veins, just a normal morning.get this .won 5 euro on a scratch card while having breakfast watching people go by.met a friend and had a nice day with her .later on she insisted I go to a party with her with her italian girl friends, good looking girls drinking.....I dropped her to the party said hello to the ladies , had a slice of pizza, and then ran away as fast as I could.....I called to my mam, sad some might say.i just woke up sober again with no battle .just a normal day
- —Guest halo
- The bad news is that you can't make your hubby stop drinking. The good news is that you don't have to expose yourself and your family to it. Nothing will change unless you quit making threats and follow through with a plan. Al anon is a good place for you to start. You will be with others that shares what you are going through. You might even have to have your husband move out. There is no magic pill to help an alcoholic, he has to want to help him self. It is not that he doesn't love you our your family it is that he doesn't love himself. Do not pity your husband he knows the right thing to do and taking his family down with him and you allowing him to do so is really unthinkable. You must take care of you and your family first and be honest with your husband. He either leaves or stops drinking and admit himself to a program. You are not alone, alcoholism strikes all walks of life, good,bad, rich and the poor. It is speakable and nothing to be ashamed of. Do something soon. Clue
- It is a sad fact, but true. The only way for an alcoholic to change is if they finally realize the hard truth that they are in fact, an addict. Otherwise they may be telling you what you want and need to hear to appease you while continuing to self destruct. It is a waste of your and their time. Sad, but true. If your husband continues to put himself, and you, in dangerous situations, it may be time for you to take a step back until he figures it out for himself. An addict will do anything he can to feed his addiction, including hurting those he loves. Maybe its time to tell him you cannot stand around and watch him as he self-destructs. If he truly wants to change, he will put all his efforts in to do so. Offer him unconditional support but stand firm that he will not take you down this dark path with him.It is extremely tough and if you feel he is truly suicidal, contact a crisis line and seek help. As an alcoholic, I know what being in addiction is like. Keep strong, keep posting
- —Guest Marilyn
- My husband is an alcoholic, the impact it has on our lives is just too sad to even share. He lies in order to have that drink, hides it everywhere, the promises he has made then the threats that he is going to kill himself. There is no help available for him we have been told until he accepts that he is an alcoholic and wants to help himself. This is a cruel disease which is socially unacceptable to talk about. How can I get him to stop?
Why can we not stop?
- In my journey of sobriety I have found that my addiction is from not wanting to deal with reality. Drinking is a side effect from my fears, loneliness, bad relationships, poor upbringing and low self esteem. Getting sober is just getting sober with out addressing my real issues. In order to find true sobriety I had to make changes. The more I faced my fears and pain the easier it has become to stay sober. In doing this I had to reach out for help. It is possible to live a happy life. My life has left behind my denials. I am walking forward with what ever it takes even if it means I had to leave behind those I love. I was killing myself and I am not ready to die. Love is not caring about your self for others it is about doing the right thing for me. I deserve a decent life and in all reality I am the only one who can have that. It's not easy but can be done. Put down the drink and do not pick up, that is how it is done. Hugs clue
- I'm in your court. One 24 hour section of life at a time. Hang in, it's in you to get on the road. This is a forum of hope. Please don't think/drink all your troubles every moment of every day. Just try to manage today. That's enough. I'm coming up to day 50. Not a drop, not a regret. No mourning the beast. The head talk changes, give it time.
Chris, keep 'er going, awesome, just awesome. Best to you and all in these pages.
- —Guest B52
Continued - Shocked...
- that I am an alcoholic, and that I cannot control my consumption of alcohol once I start. I admit I do often want to start drinking again because I am addicted to the substance and it is one of the only ways I have developed to cope.
The answer is to accept or admit the fact that alcohol has had an overwhelming impact on our lives and to somehow get the courage to seek help. When the relapses, like in my case, happen often, I think we have to find a way to maintain sobriety. I haven't achieved this yet, but I do believe that the answer is to surrender and accept what lies ahead instead of being so afraid of it without alcohol. We have to have the guts to live sober, however scary it may seem, because "living" drunk, for me, has become much more scary. Thanks to everyone for sharing their experiences. It really helps. A special thanks to Igotaclue, Marilyn and Yvan and many others for their wonderful input!
- —Guest hope 21