Melody Beattie's New Book Redefines 'Codependency'
The writer who introduced the world to the concept of "codependency" and launched a new therapeutic movement has a new book out that she hopes will clarify some of the confusion about the topic and remove some of the stigma the term has attracted.
Alcohol & Divorce
From your About.com guide, before making the decision to take a big step like divorce, consider other options available.
Tend and Befriend
In response to stress, women tend-and-befriend while men exhibit the well documented fight-or-flight response, new research suggests.
Elephant in the Living Room
From your About.com guide, it seems it would be hard to ignore, but guest columnist Diane Hunter says dsyfunctional families do it all the time!
I Had to Look Within
"I had to look within, deep within my soul to make sense out of a senseless act."
Some of the nicest people I know are codependent. They always smile, never refuse to do a favor. They are happy and bubbly all the time. They understand others and have the ability to make people feel good. People like them! So, what is wrong with this?
Can Al-Anon Really Help?
Are you affected by someone else's drinking? Here are 20 questions that may help you determine if Al-Anon could benefit you.
Codependence as Delayed Stress Syndrome
Codependence is a very vicious and powerful form of Delayed Stress Syndrome, writes Robert Burney.
A list of 20 questions aimed at determining if you have codependency tendencies, from the Alcoholics for Christ web site.
Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships.
A online reading page with stories, poems, and inspirational messages designed for codependents.
Dance of Suffering, Shame, and Self-abuse
"Codependence is an incredibly powerful, insidious, and vicious disease, because it is ingrained in our core relationship with ourselves."
Emotional Honesty and Responsibility
The recovery process, and the process of finding some balance, is multi-leveled and multi-dimensional, writes Robert Burney.
Empowerment & Victimization
"As long as we look outside of Self with a capital S to find out who we are, to define ourselves and give us self-worth, we are setting ourselves up to be victims."
Feeling the Feelings
"It is through healing our inner child, by grieving the wounds that we suffered, that we can change our behavior patterns and clear our emotional process."
Gratitude - a Vital Tool
We all have much to be grateful for, to give thanksgiving for, if we just choose to look at the half of the glass that is full.
Grave Emotional and Mental Disorders
Unfortunately, the Twelve Steps as practiced in AA are not always enough, writes Robert Burney.
How Co-dependency is Often Experienced
My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you. My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you.
Learning to Love Our Selves
"Learning to have internal boundaries is a dynamic process that involves three distinctly different, but intimately interconnected, spheres of work."
Owning Your Worth
The ability to seamlessly and subtly assert your self worth in the myriad of second-to-second interactions life presents us, from Dr. Irene's Verbal Abuse Site.
Partners & Paradox
Unless you've been through it yourself, it's hard to imagine the emotional tangles that life serves up to someone who is involved with an alcoholic.
Serenity and Expectations
Robert Burney says, "The most insidious level of expectations for me had to do with my expectations of myself."
The Joy2MeU web site lists some traits of stinking thinking including black-and-white thinking, magical thinking, and "starring in the soap opera."
Truth vs Emotional Truth
Feelings are real -- they are emotional energy that is manifested in our body but they are not necessarily fact.
The Alcohologenic Parent
There are two distinct experiences for adults who are trying to overcome dysfunction and struggling to build strength and health in their lives.
What Love Is Not
If someone loves you, it should feel like they love you, says Robert Burney in the first part of a series on "What Love Is."