It was like this for me. Everybody else belonged to the group, but I was just visiting -- maybe even intruding. So, in order to be really part of the group I had to overachieve --sell the most tickets, raise the most money, volunteer the most hours, sign up the most new members, - whatever.
And even that never really worked. I never felt like I was one of the gang. I was different, I had secrets. There were things going on at my home that did not happen in their homes.
Feeling of BelongingThat's what I like about being in a recovery program that is a fellowship of equals. No one is in authority over anyone else and everything is decided by the group as a whole. I know that just by showing up and participating I am just as much a part of the group as the oldest long-timer.
The feeling of belonging I found inside the rooms slowly spilled over into my thinking and into other areas of my life. Now I can say things like "Hey, somebody got MY parking place!" Instead of saying, "I hope I'm not in someone else's favorite spot." When I found Al-Anon I felt "at home" for the first time in my life.
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